People Pleasing Is Ruining Your Sex Life

People pleasing, perfectionism, overcompensating - these behaviors can help us navigate difficult environments, but they often limit authenticity, intimacy, and connection in our relationships.

In this experiential lecture, Darshana Avila explores the roots of these patterns and how they live in the body. Through reflection, humor, and simple embodied exercises, you’ll begin to recognize and shift them - moving toward more pleasure, power, and purpose.

Known for her grounded and candid approach, she bridges erotic embodiment, trauma healing, and self-actualization. Her work has been featured on Sex, Love & Goop, The Guardian, and The New Yorker. She maintains a private practice in Oakland, CA and hosts the Deeper With Darshana podcast.